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My 99 accord starts right up every day. In the summer, when it is hot outside she will start, I'll go to the store and when I come out she won't start. I either have to wait about an hour OR I can jiggle the 3-4 wires that are by the starter a few times and that normally does the trick. Now, BEFORE everyone says it's the starter, it is not. 3 mechanics and 4 starters says it's not. Also they said they changed out the relay switches and still no go. I have taken it to Honda and they said they couldn't find anything but they didn't drive it around like I suggested they do. Now my car is old and ugly but she's mine and she's dependable. Any suggestions?

1999 Honda accord that still drives great, and when it's hot outside, she cranks right up first thing and gets me to where I need to go. Say it's the store, and when I come out and go to start her, no go. I either have to wait about another hour OR... I can wiggle the 3-4 wires that is by the start several times and make it happen in 5 minutes. PLEASE, before you say it's the starter, it is not. 4 (four) mechanics and $680.00 later prove that to not be the case. They also said "they changed the relay switches, that didn't work, another $192.00. I also took it to Honda and they said they could find a problem but they didn't drive it for a little bit like I explained that they needed too. I am at my wits end! Please, can someone help this elderly lady out with some suggestions?